Love and sex among the Valar

Tolkien didn‘t have need to explore any erotic expressions of the Valar, Maiar or elves. Or to be more specific, as he aged, they were being removed from his works. Quite strict role of man and woman and very Christian rules of private life were the ideal for Tolkien and he reflected them during his journeys across the Middle-earth and Valinor. There is great work about it named “Warm beds are good” and I won’t speak about it more here.

Only thing I have to note is that in the beginning he was thinking about the children of the Valar, but removed this idea to make them more close to his biblical ideas. That is alright. Well…

I called for Manwe, I speak with him sometimes about the Valar. I’m reading that work right now.
Me: You have children? That is so nice.
Manwe: We had.
Me: (makes surprised face)
Manwe: They are with us no more. They left.
Me: What happened?
Manwe: (looks hurt) Quit speaking about it.
Me: (node)

This was sad to find out, but I will honor the wish of Manwe. Let us leave this topic and concentrate on more joyful and pleasurable things. As the children of Ilúvatar Valar can do, whatever they want and I suppose, that It includes pleasures of the body. Because they can take on physical form, they can also experience all pleasures it can bring.

But no matter all other aspects, the first and the most important is love. They know well, how much it is important for relationships, but also for everything we do. So simple that it can get and empower any our magic, everything we do and opens gates of pleasure, because thanks to it we can trust each other. Follows the humbles, will to give to the others and not to think so much about ourselves. (but it is also not good to forget ourselves entirely, we have limits for good reasons)

Interest in sex varies among the Valar, but the true interest of each Vala is unknown even to me, because they allow only those, who they love and trust, to know about their lust, only in both sided interest relationships. (they do not desire to be fooled) It is so also for mystery has also value, it must be honored and not destroyed. No matter I’m going to describe here some rituals with sexual energy, what secrets and rituals you want to have with the Valar, is only your secret and should remain so. It is your business. Sexual magic is matter of privacy and raising it to light is its destruction, no matter if you are participator or someone who happened to be passing by, or profi-voyerist.

To eat your best food only leads to becoming overeaten and losing interest in it. No matter if we want or not, it is the same with sexuality. Because of that I believe that it is the same with the Valar. They are not perfect, they are proud and noble. Gods and Godnessess can and possibly will gladly accept our sexual energy, if we are giving it with our best will and conscience, with love and humbles. And it doesn’t matter if they live in couple or not. In fact, what is the infidelity? The infidelity of possession, which someone claimed to be his own. But no intelligent being is our possession. If and how much are the lovers loyal to each other, that is matter of their agreement. But to cause frustration by denying natural needs is nor noble, nor wise.

Some specific and non-specific rules of sexuality…

- Do not harm your partner, nor force him to anything, pause or stop any activity on request.
(SM and various techniques agreed on, causing pain and with it still great pleasure, welcomed by the one experiencing them, are not harming)
- Sexuality and sexual magic belong to privacy and are being performed under agreement of all participators
- Sexuality and sexual magic can be form of ritual
- Raping is dishonor of gift of sexuality and human as well
- Sexuality is gift of gods to humans, it is no sin, no impure, nor wrong in any other way
- No one is lesser than other if is lacking the need for sex, or if is having more of it (promiscuity, prostitution)

It is not needed to share sexual energy with the Valar. Even without it you can develop strong and lasting friendship. Still, sexuality is very natural to humans and sexual energy is nor bad or impure. If offered with pure heart, it will be accepted as any else, by open heart of receiving Vala or Valier. (and they just whispered to my ear that they do promise you that)

Meditation with the Valar – naked dance

I recommend reading it first and then practice, meditation is full of notes and serves as an example

0. !!! Choose, which Vala or Valier you want to participate in this ritual and send your thought. If you sense that the invitation is not accepted, do not do this ritual, do not force Vala or Valier to dance if they do not want. It means that you’re not trusted yet and you have to work on yourself, in time you will be welcomed, but not yet.

1. Find a quiet place, sit down and calm yourself.

2. Empty your mind as much as you’re able. Do not try to do nothing, simply do nothing. (this can be quite difficult) Imagine a place in forest, somewhere in nature, where you feel well. Enjoy the place for a while, feel the trees around you, the life in them, in the grass, in the stones, even in the water. Everything around you is living and all life is sacred, including yours.

3. Everything around you is getting hidden in the fog and you walk through it without fear. For a moment you see nothing but fog. Then you hear burning fire and you leave the fog in well furnished room, with burning fireplace. It is very gentle place, warm and private. Only the one you want here is allowed to came here. Vala/Valier is here already, or is entering some way. You smile at each other. (if you do not feel well together, allow the Vala/Valier to leave or with best wishes you can leave yourself – now or anytime later)

4. Put down only enough clothes to feel comfortable, no matter if you’ll be half naked, fully naked or you even wear something erotic. Vala/Valier will do the best to fit in with you. You can begin to dance. You can imagine that the music is playing, or simply be in silence. Begin carefully, by catching hands and dancing slowly, then you may stroke hands, nuzzle body on body, slowly adding more and more physical contact. Nuzzle the bodies, spin, breathe at each other skin, stroke, do dancing poses, anything as long as you enjoy it. (to touch the private parts must be very careful. If you want to be touched, lead the hand of partner there, but do not touch there yourself if you’re not this or other way invited to)

5. The end of dance is showed by note and that you begin to redress. Say your thanks and say, how did you like it.

6. You may stay there as long as you want, you may speak together, even plan next ritual, same or different. Once you’re ready, everything around you disappears in fog and once the fog disappears, you’re back at the place in forest, where you came from.

7. Slowly you awaken from meditation and realize your own body. If you can, remain for bit more time relaxed and enjoy the feeling you have from your journey.

Meditation with the Valar – touching and energy

I recommend reading it first and then practice, meditation is full of notes and serves as an example

1. Find a quiet place, sit down and calm yourself.

4. As you feel well, you can begin to touch each other, it is friendly to begin on hand or face, don’t be invading. Touch and explore, allow to be explored, if the hands get anywhere you do not want, note it. This should be pleasurable experience. Open your senses and feel the energy of Vala/Valier, you can ask to be stroked by his/her energy. Usually then you will fell the energy specific for Vala/Valier stroking your body.

5. End is showed by hands leaving the partner. Say your thanks and say, how did you like it.

7. Slowly you awaken from meditation and realize your own body. If you can, remain for bit more time relaxed and enjoy the feeling you have from your journey.

Meditation with the Valar – gentle games

1. Find a quiet place, sit down and calm yourself.

4. ---(Here I leave space to your fantasy, you may choose from the erotic list below, or you can come up with something yourself, imaginations knows no limits as far as the activity is pleasurable to all participants)---

5. When you end your shared activity, say your thanks and say, how did you like it.

7. Slowly you awaken from meditation and realize your own body. If you can, remain for bit more time relaxed and enjoy the feeling you have from your journey.

Erotic activities

Only Some examples, true list can be infinite. We can say (Not by 100%) that everything we can claim being sexy, can be here. Erotic is definitely not just about full sex, but also many other activities, which pleasure the man and are releasing sacred sexual energy and strengthen spirit and body. Some are even not considered erotic by some. The list is for inspiration, to inspire you, when seeking some fitting activity, performed in privacy (truly almost none can be done in public) to enjoy and pleasure yourself.

Couple:
Sex in many forms (of course)
Showering together
Bath together
Erotic dance together
Erotic dance for each other
Touching and stroking any part of body
Whispering erotic fantasies into ear
Massage
Kissing not only on mouth
Being in one room naked
Being in one room in erotic dress on underpants only
Drawing your partner naked
Visiting and shopping in sex shop
Walking in nature naked
Reading to each other erotic stories
Taking photos of each other naked or in erotic dress
Speaking about erotic topics
Exhibition of body to each other and its admiration

Single:
Masturbation (of course, right?)
Watching porn video or pictures (possible in couple as well)
Being home naked
Naked dance
Reading of erotic stories
Drawing naked body using image
Visiting sex shop and shopping there
Walking naked in nature
Rituals done naked
Admirating your naked body in the mirror, even loudly

In the end I have to note the responsibility that comes with sex. You work with your body, if there is more of you, then with the body of your partner as well, which cannot be taken lightly. Erotic activities, in this article done with the gods, can be done with humans and anyone. When participating with beings in human incarnation, condom can be needed or other erotic protection against illnesses, or contraception. If you keep this responsibility in mind, then all that is left to say is: Hail the sex, especially orgasm and have pleasure from every moment.